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From his experience running 9 marathons, Marcus Brown lists 6 ways running can improve confidence and resilience
Other people and ourselves can put so many limitations on what we are and what we could be, that it constricts us as a person. But self-belief requires daily nurture: you can’t train a muscle once and expect it to stay strong for life. I use the running of marathons in the same way; as a challenge to remind myself to not place unnecessary limitations on who I am.
2. Don’t listen to the critics:
I’ve paraphrased the poem titled “If” by Kipling. “If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too.” After completing my first marathon, I was asked about my time and had it devalued by various people. I’ve learned that you can’t solely judge your version of success on what others think. Even if you achieve your goal, there will always be critics that will devalue your achievement, and tell you you’re not as good as them. Regardless if it takes you two hours or five days to complete a marathon, you’ve still covered 26.2 miles.
3. Dealing with failure:
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, you won’t always succeed. What happens when plans A, B, and C fail? When you can’t improve your time, or you’re injured or you can’t finish a race etc. I’ve learned that when something doesn’t work, I need to take the time to stop, review and reflect on what did and did not work. Sometimes there just isn’t an answer to the question, but you can’t dwell on the perceived failure, instead see it as part of the ebb and flow of life. I think of the quote by Arthur Ashe: “If I were to say, ‘God, why me?’ about the bad things, then I should also say, ‘God, why me?’ about the good things that happened in my life.
4. Connecting with others:
The theme of this week’s Mental Health Awareness Week is maintaining good relationships. As much as running is a solo sport, you can’t underestimate the value of social connection to our wellbeing and self-esteem. Receiving support boosts confidence and, equally, supporting others on their journey is rewarding. There’s an African proverb that says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”.
5. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable:
Success never arrives from a place of comfort and ease, I’ve learned to look at failure as an opportunity to learn from, and not something to run or hide from, if you want to grow. For example, when I want to run faster, I have to train fast, it hurts like hell, but I do improve, gradually. Additionally, ‘comfort zones’ can unconsciously keep you stuck by holding onto limiting self-beliefs, which do not positively serve you. It can stop you living your life, and experience life through real and imagined fears.
No one chooses to have a weakness, but you have to work with what you have to be the best version of yourself. However, my challenge to you is to ask yourself how can you turn a perceived weakness into a strength that brings out the best in you? For example, overcoming obstacles can give you a greater capacity to work under pressure.
Finally, don’t hide and deny your challenges; do talk with those close to you as it is a helpful way to express your feelings, but also a way to challenge ideas that don’t best serve you. The lessons I’ve learned above focus on optimism and resilience, which have a positive benefit to mental health and self-esteem. It can be summarised in the quote by Victor Kiam: “Even if you fall on your face, you’re still moving forward.”
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